Race is a complicated, emotional issue, particularly right now in the US. For me, though, my focus lately is much more on something much closer to me than the headlines, but I didn’t realize it until I was discussing recent headlines with a friend who happens to be a person of color.
She said something that suddenly touched a nerve in me. I was suddenly defensive, angry even. It’s really irrelevant what she said because, as we talked further, I realized that how I was feeling had very little to do with what she had said and everything to do with me.
I felt the need to defend “whiteness” and that need came from…feeling as if my own “whiteness” was now in question.
I grew up in a very rural community with just 0.5% minorities in our school. Her name was Lily and she was half Vietnamese and looking back…